Are You In An Abusive Love & Hate Relationship?

Abusive relationships have too many variables to mention in one piece, but for the most part, they must be mentioned, since hope is available. Contrary to love and relationships, abusive relationships are built on love and hate.

The victim of an abusive relationship often loves their partner and hopes that someday the person will change, which it never happens. The other component in the relationship has a deep buried hatred and uses the mechanisms that humans require to control his or her mate. The hate is often buried deep and exposes itself when an emotion is touched by the mate. The person will ever strike out in public, attacking another person of the same gender, but it does happen.

The mate showing love to his or her lover often hears “I am sorry, it won’t happen again. I was just mad.” The person with hate buried inside often makes excuses for his or her behavior and the partner often believes the lies throughout the relationship.

Abusive relationships come in many forms. In other words, doctors, lawyers, cops, judges, poor, or other class of people can be the hater while the mate is the lover. The person filled with hate will often use the mate as a punching bag when he or she feels angry. The anger is buried deep, thus the partner can trigger the mate under any circumstance. In other words, a wrong word that is not wrong to someone else could ignite an emotion that strikes out at the target.

Love and hate relationships are the worse kind since someone always gets hurt. Statistics show that every 3 minutes a woman is battered by her mate, thus in some instances killed. The ongoing problem needs a resolve, since lives are at stake, therefore, I am writing this article in hopes they someone will listen and get help now.

A good relationship is based on trust, love, and faith and sharing. When one partner is giving more than the other partner this is not love. When one partner trusts that his or her partner is faithful and the partner is out spreading it around like the plague then someone is going to get hurt.

Nowadays, it is next to impossible to find pure love. Good men often find women that treat them ill, while bad men are mistreating women badly that their views of men diminish over time. Good women often find men that cheat, lie, or take them for granted, thus finding a good relationship nowadays is next to impossible.

Persons in an abusive relationship often remain with their partners regardless of the level abuse, since the hater has their self-esteem and confidence torn down so badly that they believe that no one else wants them. Even if they do have a shred of dignity left, they are often threatened that if they leave the abuser will hurt or kill a family member, friend, or the partner. The law is no help, or offers little help to partners of abusive relationships. Rather, in most states the cops have allowed murder before acting upon the crime. This happens too often, thus the law is not in the favor of the person believing their partner will change, rather they are in no one’s favor but the predator him self. History will backup my every word on this topic, thus I am not holding back any punches.

Thus, if you are in an abusive relationship you may want to consider what love and relationship really means. If you are believing that your mate will change you are wasting valuable time and co-depending him or her in their ungodly behaviors. Love does not hurt, rather love makes a person feel hope, secure, confident, and ready to take chances in life. Love offers hugs, kisses, respect, trust, and a hand when times are hard.

This article is targeted to ladies in general, but men are abused too, thus anyone in an abusive relationship is wise to leave now and find true love and relationships that will last a long time.

A Good Example Of A Story Of Love and Relationship That Lasts.

Hearing the many stories of love and relationships, including the breakdowns make us wonder if love really exists anymore. The different stories including love that lead to harm, love that lead to death, and love that lead to hope tell us about the different types of love in existence.

When we think of the story of Bonnie and Clyde, we often wonder what bonded these two together. The couple remained faithful up until their death in relationship and love. Yet, their love was obviously misplaced. The love constructed on desire lead to death since the two joined in criminal activities that caused harm and death in the end of the relationship. The story of Bonnie and Clyde is a surefire example of compatibility, yet it illustrates the difference between unconditional love and superficial love, yet understands the mechanism that makes unconditional and dying love.

Both Bonnie and Clyde came from poverty-stricken homes. The two tired of bad relationships teamed up and acting out of violence to commit acts of vigilante at the same time the acts of crime. During their involvement, the two remained faithful and loyal to each other, and often illustrated the true meaning of love, since it took death to separate the two. While the two had the human mechanism originated to compose love, the two also had harmful intentions of the type of relationship they would join.

While Bonnie and Clyde relationships were a thing of the past, there are couples today that join in relationships with good intentions, but harmful habits and thinking that leads to disaster.

Examples of harmful relationships are visual in case studies abroad the world, captured in papers, media, et cetera. An example of a harmful relationship is visual in the following caption. It started out with the seemingly perfect relationship, which escalated to the seemingly perfect family. The traditional family composed of father, mother, and children. The father worked daily in a mental health environment, while the mother worked at home and outside the home. The father later murdered made the public wonder how such a seemingly perfect family arrangement turned sour.

It turned out that the father while appearing loving in the public was illustrating violence and abusive behaviors at home while keeping a low profile. Thus, the mother tired and feed up with the arrangement addressed the issue, which turned into a physical act of murder.

As you can see, human mechanisms and elements that compose love were lacking in this family, since obviously the man had no respect for his family arrangement, or members.

Unfortunately, not every book has a cover that exposes the trueness of the story. Likewise, every person does not always present the trueness of the person that helps the mate see the outlook of the relationship. A person can go through years with another individual and never detect flaws that could lead to harm, until the day arrives. Others leave trails that illustrate potential harm, but the partner consumed in life, and meeting expectations fail to see the traits and evidence trailing throughout the relationship.

When considering relationships it makes sense to take your time while monitoring closely to the different behaviors the mate presents. Monitoring and listening, while hearing can help you to determine what the person has to offer you. A background check could never hurt, since too many relationships today turn sour, or else the partner learns the hard way that the mate has a haunting past. The haunting past may include adulterous, promiscuous, or criminal behaviors.

Personally, I recommend joining in activities, entertainment, communication, etcetera before committing to a relationship. After a few months you will see how you potential mate responds to social engagements, social environment, and so forth. Still, once you have an overview of the person’s response to your expectations you will need to take it slow before permanently committing self to an ongoing relationship.

You may want to learn the steps to protecting yourself from failed relationships, as well as how to maintain a productive relationship. Learning is growing and can help you make better choices in life, including in love and relationships.